New Boundary

I am not going to enter into a relationship arrangement that restricts my autonomy. There. I said it. That's my new boundary and it applies to you and everyone else I'm involved with. I know we've had a one-sided "don't ask don't tell" open relationship in the past, but I feel like since we're separated that it no longer applies. I wish we could talk openly about my other non-platonic friendships. I've obviously had a few since we've been together and I believe you're aware of most of them. I wish I could tell you about the two I'm currently involved with. It would help me so much to be able to share them with you and would go a long way to reestablishing emotional safety in our relationship. I also want to be respectful of your feelings though. It's hard because I do consider you my closest friend and this is the kind of stuff I like to share with my close friends. I'm going to write it here because this is all the stuff I want to say, but can't.
I'm going to use their nicknames when I speak about them...Mermando and CTR.
Yes, CTR is my long time customer from the club. Mermando is my surfer boy toy that I met on Tinder. They're both awesome in their own ways. I love spending time with both of them. Mermando and I both share a passion for being in the ocean and nature in general. He's super sweet and helpful. On our first date he helped me make wedding decorations for Caleb's wedding. He's 25 so the age gap is substantial. We've agreed that there really isn't any long term serious relationship potential in our situation, but for the moment we'll just enjoy spending time together. 
CTR and I share a long history of a transactional relationship at the club. There's always been some serious chemistry between and recently we decided to get to know each other outside the club. We have a lot in common including being amicably separated from our spouses and having kids. We go on random fun dates that revolve around our common interests. It's great. It's all very undefined and non-committal which is perfect for me.
I really like both of these guys and I would say that I'm just enjoying my time with then in the moment.
FYI though, you're still the best sex I've ever had.

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